Alright, future (or even current) bridesmaids, this one’s for you. Of course, we’re also doing a favor to all those brides out there; if your bridesmaids are engaging in any of the behaviors on this list, either point them in the direction of this article or consider evaluating how much stress is worth having them in your wedding.

What to look for

1.) Constantly complain. Now don’t get us wrong, as much of an honor as it is to be a bridesmaid, there are many things to complain about. Between the money it takes to buy all the required shoes, dresses, and presents, not to mention all the time it takes to throw bridal showers and bachelorette parties, as well as attend dress fittings and participate in countless other wedding activities, you’ll start to feel like you’re planning your own wedding. But you’re not. This is her day, not yours, so as much of an inconvenience as it might be, shut your mouth and smile; it’ll all be over soon.

Also, if there really is a problem (you can’t afford to drop $800 on a bridesmaid dress, talk to the bride directly. You can either work something out or decline to be a bridesmaid, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with declining due to financial or scheduling conflicts.

2.) Fight with the other bridesmaids. There is always a chance that one of your sworn enemies will be another bridesmaid, but that is just something you will have to deal with. You didn’t pick the other bridesmaids; the bride did, and your opinion on this matter is completely irrelevant. And trust us. She has plenty of things stressing her out already; she doesn’t need you and her new sister-in-law bickering on top of it all.

3.) Be late for important dates. Planning a wedding means having to fit countless new activities into your daily schedule: dress fittings, cake tastings, band reviews, and many, many more appointments with other wedding vendors. When the bride schedules something you must be present for, like a dress fitting, she’s likely squeezing it between two other very important things. Arrive on time.


4.) Ignore the bride. Yes, there will come a point when you are completely overwhelmed with wedding-related tasks and need a break, but ignoring the bride is not the way to take this break. Just take a second to read her email and answer whatever question she asked. It may sound like much, but by prioritizing her tasks, you’ll get her off your back much faster.

5.) Take over. Chances are, the bride will probably give you some responsibility when it comes to certain tasks, but that’s where it ends. Don’t invite or change anything unless you clear it with the bride first.

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