In a perfect world, everyone you know would be invited to your wedding. And we’re talking everyone: your family, closest friends, semi-close friends (like your Friday night drinking buddies), coworkers, people that follow your blog and even people you absolutely can’t stand, like that “popular” girl that made your life miserable in high school but has since gained 40 pounds and works at a gas station. Yeah, she’s going to want to see this.
But the fact is, not everyone can come to your wedding, even people you really, really do care about. So what happens when they clearly expect an invite but are definitely not going to receive one? We’ve got you covered.
1.) Sorry, but you just don’t have the budget. Weddings are expensive; everyone knows this. So just blame it on the budget. Bring up something else that costs a ton of money that you were completely unaware of, like the photographer. This will direct the conversation to something else and give you something to bond over. Say with how stretched your wedding budget already is, it’s hard to see how you are going to have any guests at all!
2.) Sorry, but it’s just going to be family and maybe a few close friends. If it’s a friend, you can even say that it’s going to be mainly just family. If it’s a family member, well…they probably already know why they aren’t invited. If not, just direct them to your mother. She’ll let them know.
3.) Sorry, but the venue is really limiting in the number of guests we can invite. Venues are tough to find, so when you do find one that fits 90% of your needs, it’s understandable that a few things might get pushed to the side. So simply explain that your venue strictly limits the number guests that can attend, and with your fiancé’s huge family, you’ve really had to cut out quite a bit of people that you wish could come.
4.) Sorry, but everything is still up in the air. If it makes you feel better to dance around the subject, simply say you haven’t finalized your guest list and are desperately trying to figure out a way to avoid narrowing down your current list. Say limited space and funds are making it difficult, so you’ll let them know.
5.) Go rogue. Here’s an option that’s just craze enough that it’s actually known to work. Wait until after the wedding, then call up the scorned guest asking if you two are “good.” Explain that you were disappointed not to receive an RSVP from them and hope everything is okay. They’ll explain that they never got an invitation, you can blame it on the postal service, and you both can go out for coffee and laugh about it. Then in three weeks text them and let them know the same thing happened to (insert name of made-up friend or family member here) too! Crazy, right?!
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