The idea of compromising on your wedding seems a bit…odd. Isn’t this the day you’ve been dreaming of as long as you could remember? You get to call the shots, and if anyone has a problem with anything, you automatically win because you’re the bride, right?

Well…kind of.

As it turns out, those people who don’t compromise on anything are not called brides; they’re called bridezillas, and for good reason. Unless you want to alienate your entire family and have your groom second guessing his decision to marry you, you’re going to have to compromise on a few things. Having said that, there are also some things you should never back down about. Read on.

DO Compromise:

1.) The guest list. Contrary to what modern media tells us, a wedding is not just about the bride. It’s about the groom as well, and it marks the joining of two families. You may absolutely hate your groom’s best friend, but if he wants him to be the best man he gets to be the best man. And it doesn’t matter if you can’t stand that woman that has been friends with his family for what seems like eternity. If they consider her family, you must now consider her family, and on the guest list she goes.

2.) The decorations. Your guests are not going to remember if your silverware had ribbon around it or not, and they’re much less going to remember if that ribbon looked professionally tied or like you did it yourself. You don’t have to do the exact same thing as that wedding that you found on Pinterest, you just need to be close. Use those pictures for inspiration and stop stressing over the details.

DON’T Compromise:

1.) The budget. Keep in mind that you’re getting married…and that’s all. That statement is not meant to be a downer, it’s meant to remind you that you have your whole life ahead of you! You’re going to need money for other things down the road, like a house, kids, travel or whatever other goals you and your new spouse have together. It may seem like an extra $50 here and an extra $100 there is nothing to worry about, but it adds up. Stay within your budget, no matter what.

2.) Your overall plan. As soon as you get engaged, you’re going to be dealing with more than a handful of wedding planning wannabes trying to influence your choices about your wedding, and you should stand your ground.

3.) The dress. Since we’ve already covered the importance of staying in budget, we’ll remind you that your dream dress is only your dream dress if you stay within your price range, having said that, pick the style that you want. If your mom wants you in a ballgown and a tiara and you want the sleek, modern dress with a flower in your hair, do what you want. She’s your mom, not the bride, and she’ll get over it. You might not.


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